There's a lot of bunk about rape. Psychologists appear to have it wrong. A lot of psychology is charlatanry, chicanery. It would profit from more science and less "ism" and wishful thinking. When it comes to rape, rely on the rapist for accurate information. Conventional wisdom about rape is at best distorted and slanted. Rape could better be understood, treated and prevented if a realistic view was adopted. Frankly, it appears that women have decided what they think rape should be. That reflects the female reaction to rape, not male motivations. It has little value in treatment or understanding. Female reaction to rape is a separate concern. The mentality of revenge, exaggeration and continual reinforcement has little bearing on male behavior. The standard line is that rape is not a crime of sexual desire. It's a crime of "power" and violence. That view is wrong. It appears to have been invented by women or sissified men. It reflects contempt and rejection of men's real and natural sexual disposition. With a few rare exceptions, rape is a crime of sexual desire. In spite of fadish political and social fantasy, male sexuality is not like female sexuality, nor should it be. If it were, it would be homosexuality. Men and women are very different. ("Vive la differance" as the French observe.) Men and women think differently. They feel differently. They have different value systems. Their sexual appetites, sexual, aims and sexual goals are different. There are solid biological reasons for those differences. It's called "normal" or usual. Admittedly, there are exceptions. Admittedly there are areas of overlap. Sexuality isn't simple and tidy. Sexuality is biological diplomacy. Females may regard male sexuality as "shameful," superficial, domineering, selfish and even disloyal. Female intolerance and misunderstanding, doesn't change what male sexuality is or what it "should" be. Women may want men to be more like they are. Women who dislike maleness should seek female partners. In the same way, it's not uncommon for men not to understand why women aren't more direct and honest. That's the way men tend to see themselves. Men tend to view female sexuality as inscrutable and silly. That view tends men to disrespect women and their desires. They don't value what they regard as inane and pointless. Men have a very poor grasp of the female need for frills and sexual by-play. They don't want, don't need and don't understand all the fooling around. An army of sperm has a different imperative than a solitary ova. An army of sperm is insistent. It spurns delay and pointless diplomacy. An army of sperm must assault an ova and overcome it. The ova must be cautious, selective and nurturing. Male orgasm is rooted in overcoming resistance, in winning a struggle. Female orgasm is rooted in submission. Where a woman doesn't submit, she doesn't orgasm. Male orgasm satisfies male reproductive involvement. Orgasm only begins the female reproductive involvement. The biological differences produce different sexual behaviors and strategies. Men are slaves to their biology. Women are slaves to theirs as well. In one sense, a man is a convenient apparatus for delivering sperm. The male genes have arranged it that way. Female sexuality is a lot more complex. It must not just receive the sperm, it must sort out which one it wants. Then it must invest a lot of time and resources to nurture those genes. In human sexuality there are natural roles of domination and submission. Penetration is, by it's very character, violent and dominating. Acceptance of penetration naturally requires submission. For the women who resent that natural arrangement, there are sexual alternatives. The point is that all normal sexual activity involves certain elements of power, force and subjugation. It has nothing to do with rape. It's simply the schematic of sexuality. "Tigers bite when the make love," to quote the poem. Rape generally requires an erection. Erections generally require sexual arousal. Most men don't bone-up to fist fight, to go to war or to wrestle. It wouldn't be biologically useful. The blood would be in the wrong place. An erection is prima facie evidence that rape is a sexual act. It reflects sexual desire. It produces sexual satisfaction - at least to some degree. Rape also reflects an exaggerated interest in one's own wants and needs over the wants and needs of the partner. Rape is a crime of sexual theft. It's a crime of cheating by not playing woman's game. It's a crime of contempt for what the man sees and nonsense. A sadist may have other motivations such as inflicting pain. Such persons are generally cops and prison guards, not actual rapists. A rapist seeks an orgasm not pain. It's also true that many men resent women. They resent that women control the satisfaction of their desires and that women are fickle. Some men want to cut through the nonsense and just have sex. That breaks the rules of the sexual game. Just like it or not, the woman (the ova) makes the selection. Recently there was a report of a fourteen year-old boy. He forced sex on younger boys. He was charged with crimes. Everything about that case is wrong. Homosexuality is incomprehensible to most men. Disrespect for the wishes of others is cultural more than it's biological, however, one's ego is certainly involved. To arrest and imprison such a child is an admission that psychology, science and society don't understand what's happening and what to do about it. In all crime, the first question should be "what harm was done?" The "sex is bad" axiom predominates in society and science. If the kid had forced a hundred dollars on the younger children, the law would regard it differently. So long as religion has corrupted science with the "sex is bad" dictum there will be little chance to understand rape or other sexual crimes. Instead of understanding, society reacts. It's emotions, not mind. The notion of the "innocence" of children is ridiculous. The idea that children are asexual is absurd. The belief that children should be asexual is religious pap. American culture lies to the young. It censors the young. It deprives them of experience and understanding. In short, American adults do to their children the very things they would not want done to themselves. What motivates a fourteen year-old boy to rape younger children is not complex. He wanted to have orgasm and sexual experience. The younger children were a means to that end. The assailant had no respect for the victims. Would he have respect for his hand were he masturbating? Would he have respected the hamburger he was eating? He was physically able to do it, so he did. It was sexual. Rape would be reduced if the sexes understood one another better. It would be reduced if men viewed the sexual game as more fair and equitable and above all, more comprehensible. It would be reduced if there was more tolerance. Sex is not bad. Sex is good. Sexuality is good. Its beneficial. Sexual education should help males understand how to play the sexual game. It should be more than a plumbing lesson. It should teach females to be more forthright, cooperative and tolerant. Of course, "no" should be accepted as "no" even where it means "coax me," "beg me," "pay me" as it so often does. In many ways most women are whores. They want to be paid for their services with appropriate attentions and preliminaries. Everything had a cost. Males should be coached to understand that. Rape takes something of value from a woman. It's theft. It's assault. The motivation is sexual not greed, not power and not violence. For violence go to war. 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